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小蚂蚁能够举起超过自身体重400倍的东西，小蚂蚁是世界上最顽强的动物， 你的儿子A-level一定会考出好成绩的。
关于《The Ugly Truth..》。还好吧， 到目前为止在原文的回复栏里没看到有人"抨击"， 多数的回复都是都是同情，鼓励和建议（也有嘲讽，不过都是来自普通学校）。 多数人都明白这个女孩已经付出了最大的努力，她的问题在于对精英一词的误解，对未来过高的期望以及对成功的错误定义。 现摘取几段回复：
1. thank youfor the sharing; it somehow makes your junior (me) feel much better despite allthe sucky aspects of HC. I guess i started a little differently from you as iwas from NY. Nevertheless, it's not all that different given i still struggledto survive academically and socially. Indeed, incompetent tutors and unfriendlyclassmates aren't helping the situation either... (then again, it depends onyour class. Some classes are really inclusive) you're not the only one who hasto convince yourself daily of the need to attend school. ;) But we have learnt,albeit in a hard way, to deal with life. I truly believe i have become strongerand can now single-mindedly pursue my goal without giving a damn about whatothers think of me. I probably won't miss HC at all when i leave, but i amstill glad HC gave a me taste of how tough life can be. We aren't that bad, yaknow! XD 2. I'm in RJ,cried when I read this. I came in through RG and for the last 5 years I've beenseeing people crumble from the weight of unfulfilled expectations. Most of usspent our nights crying. The worst part is that this is seen as normal, justpart of the package. It's almost a universal feeling here in RJ that we'renever going to be good enough. It's not just about the academics even, it'sabout the underlying message that self-worth hinges upon your achievements. Evenif people say 'life is gonna present challenges, you just have to get over it',sure most of us will do well eventually, but the damage would have been done.When people look at our good results they see a noble struggle that weovercame, not a one-dimensional rat race and the pointless emotional turmoil wewent through. For those that don't, it's heartbreaking for our efforts to allof a sudden mean absolutely nothing. 3. Hi there! Whoa you have so manycomments on this post I hope you'll manage to read mine amongst the wholeflurry haha.
I don't know you personally, and I'm not from HC I'm from RJ, but someoneshared your post on facebook and I CAN RELATE SO MUCH TO IT. I think I'm in theexact same situation as you have been. I was always the model student, the"smart" kid, the one acing exams and getting As in primary school.But that changed when I entered GEP, and changed even more when I went to rgs.I didn't want to go and actually I didn't even make the cut in terms of PSLEgrades (I got 254) but I secured a place through DSA. I actually wanted to goto Anderson but then all my friends were going to such schools and so I waslike ah heck just go. I was not happy there. I wanted to transfer to an artsschool like Sota but...that never happened as my parents weren't supportive ofthat. So like almost everyone else in my school I just went on to RJ.
I'm in J2 now, in the arts stream. A lot of my other friends are aiming forthings like med, or law, and most of them want to go overseas. Of course I'dlike to get all As too but then there's this part about being realistic.Realistically speaking, I don't think all As is within my capacity. I'd behappy with all Bs actually, even though some people might look down on myseemingly "low" expectations. Yes my PW was a B too and it was quitepissing cos everyone else in my class got an A, even the slacker in my groupwho freeloaded on us. But I don't let that get to me. I was surprised to findout that my friends from other non "elite" JCs view a B for PW assomething worth celebrating.
Honestly I don't think your A level grades are bad. My maths grades arehorrible; I've never passed in these past 2 years. I'd actually be really gladif I were to manage to scrape a C! Anyway you still managed to get a place inuni right? So that's great! I wanna go to nus fass too :D
Okay my comment is getting extremely long winded and rambly I think I'd betterstop now, you've probably read through  comments that have said basicallythe same things I have right haha. Anyway thank you for having the courage towrite such a post despite all the possible backlash and negative comments frompeople who don't agree. It's really so relatable, for me anyway. :)
Cheers! I hope you'll have a better experience in uni than you've had in jc,and all the best in future endeavours :) 4. ello(: I'm astudent in HC (HS) and I will perhaps offer a different perspective to life inan elite school.
As much as I can empathize with your circumstances, I cannot actually say thatI have experienced it myself. Apparently I am from the other end of theacademic spectrum, and while they seem like polar opposites, I can tell youthat we (or at least I) face the same issues as you but in a different way. Imean, if you feel stress that people expect you to have good results just cuzyou're in HC, it is probably equally as stressful that everyone expects us tohave excellent, record-breaking results. I face intense competition from mypeers everyday because it seems like everyone is getting better except for me.It feels like the stakes are getting higher and higher and we are somehowexpected to catch up without a problem, even when there's no one you can reallytalk to because everyone is a competitor. And when you work really hard butstill fail, instead of encouragement you can see disappointment in yourteachers' eyes. This doesn't help when you are already feeling verydisappointed and angry with yourself.
I agree with you that the stereotype that others have of HC students isterrible. I hate it when people label me as 'mugger' or 'smart' because insideI know that I can hardly live up to those standards. I can also totallyunderstand the feeling when people say that a fail in HC is the same as a B orC elsewhere. But then again you can't really blame HC for their positivepropaganda and publications or whatnot, because which school would want toportray themselves as bad?
Anyway I want to encourage you for your courage and honesty in posting this,and also because I can see that you have really really really worked hard foryour As. I mean, instead of constantly comparing with our peers, perhapssometimes we should compare with ourselves - our abilities, our standards andour past records. From SUD/UD to BBC/BA is no mean feat. Really. And this is coming from astudent who is supposed to score well all the time. Be assured that thelower percentiles are never overlooked. Hehe this post is actuallycirculating on FB especially amongst my peers who are in Special Programmes andit's truly an inspiration(?haha is this the correct word to use) to all of us!:D
JIAYOUS for all of your future endeavours and I wish you all the best in life(: 5. Chanced upon your post today. I was from HC too, and I know it can feeldemoralising to be surrounded by high achieving people. I was in Artemis, whereall the SMTP peeps reside. Haha. It's like you're a small fish in the big pond.
But when you step back and take a look, you will realise that the world doesnot just consist of elites. Truly, it's in my current workplace that i start tomeet more people who get worse results than you, and i am at a loss of words tocomfort them. 2 years ago, I would have thought your results were horrible.Now, yours are pretty good, and you even have a chance to enter localuniversities.
I know it is easy to get caught up in grades, especially in elite schools andin your future university. But understand that the world out there is more thanjust grades. You have participated in SYF, you have learnt dance skills whichhave much use in the future, even if its just for recreation. Learn to findyour strengths, take pride in it and work hard to train it up!
The last thing i would like to share about is to be appreciative. As i havementioned, there are many others who have scored worse than you. Just becauseyou are the lower percentile of your school, doesnt mean you are that of yourwhole cohort. Also, appreciate your hard work. You have worked hard for yourgrade, and strive to work harder for your next one!
I hope to see you in NTU this year if you are coming! And remember, life isn'tall about grades, it's about doing everything to the best of your abilities,and being proud of it :)
P.S. I didn't like HC too. In fact, I joined the school for the air-con classrooms! 6. Im from HCtoo and i've scored alot worse than you haha, but on the fateful day itself iguess i didnt feel as dissappointed and faithless towards the elite system as idid not expect as much from it in the first place... but anyways! Take thisexperience in your stride and move on in life! its not all about studying ya knowxD
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