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谦纭

LILY说得很好。
一个人的看法和自身的能力运气息息相关。如果换了其他的身份遭遇，见解又是另一种。
我支持真理，但世俗地生活。
Maurice安心回水库泡吧，无论男女，愤青类态度和针对性对话在这毫无帮助。
反方意见可参照Melissa和Mildlily的

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110# Mildlily  



說的太好了 深深感覺到你身上那種人格魅力以及內涵 。
clever8800 发表于 21-6-2009 15:25

同意。

迷糊小妈咪

First of all my apologies that I can't type Chinese right now because I'm using my brother-in-law's laptop. I still agree with 谦纭, on every single post that she posted here, all of which make perfect sense to me.

Yes it's absolutely correct to say that we should carry a fair and impartial heart, that we shouldn't give anybody any negative assumptions whatsoever. However the situation is I had given her my 100% trust and I really did think and hope she's a decent maid, and that's exactly the reason why I felt a bit out of my mind when I found out she had been hiding things from me. Well if she asked me directly 'Ma'am can I have a handphone? Can I use it when I have a moment to call my mom because I miss her so much?' the whole thing would have been different. Even after we found out she has a 2nd hand phone we did nothing, that's because we don't wanna give her any false assumption, that we want to give her a chance and keep trusting her...

Well, I'm tired of explaning the whole thing over and over again, so let's just put it this way - that my point is about just one thing - "honesty". Since the whole thread went a bit off-topic somehow, I need to stress this again. It's not about bias, nor about the skin colour or the work permit one carries, it's about "dishonesty", which would be a shock to me no matter who it is. Anyway since there are so many nice suggestions here I've already found a solution to the problem, and I've already had some talk with her to figure the whole thing out, so that should be the end of the discussion.

Thanks everyone for your kind attention on this thread.