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如何应对失望、痛苦和沮丧的讯息
马太福音1:18 耶稣基督降生的事,记在下面。祂母亲马利亚已经许配了约瑟,还没有迎娶,马利亚就从圣灵怀了孕。
1:19 他丈夫约瑟是个义人,不愿意明明的羞辱她,想要暗暗的把她休了。
1:20 正思念这事的时候,有主的使者向他梦中显现,说:“大卫的子孙约瑟,不要怕,只管娶过你的妻子马利亚来。因她所怀的孕,是从圣灵来的。
1:21 她将要生一个儿子,你要给祂起名叫耶稣,因祂要将自己的百姓从罪恶里救出来。
1:22 这一切的事成就,是要应验主借先知所说的话说‘必有童女怀孕生子,人要称祂的名为以马内利。’”
1:24 约瑟醒了,起来就遵着主使者的吩咐,把妻子娶过来。
1:25 只是没有和她同房,等她生了儿子就给他起名叫耶稣。
如果想找一个以智慧和神性来回应失望的例子,那么与马太福音相比,可能查找诗篇更为合适。可是,恰恰在新约的开章就讲到了,一个义人是如何应对痛苦和失望的讯息。
约瑟,主耶稣在地上的父亲,他是一个义人。这个敬虔的男人,想要一个能与他同样渴望荣耀和服从上帝的妻子,而圣经指明,玛利亚正是这样的女人。
(路加福音1:45 这相信的女子是有福的,因为主对她所说的话都要应验。
1:46 马利亚说:“我心尊主为大,
1:47 我灵以 神我的救主为乐,
1:48 因为祂顾念祂使女的卑微。从今以后,万代要称我有福。
1:49 那有权能的为我成就了大事,祂的名为圣。
1:50 祂怜悯敬畏祂的人,直到世世代代。
1:51 祂用膀臂施展大能,那狂傲的人正心里妄想,就被祂赶散了。
1:52 祂叫有权柄的失位、叫卑贱的升高;
1:53 叫饥饿的得饱美食,叫富足的空手回去。
1:54 祂扶助了祂的仆人以色列,
1:55 为要记念亚伯拉罕和他的后裔,施怜悯直到永远,正如从前对我们列祖所说的话。”)
因此可以想象得到,当玛利亚探望亲戚伊丽莎白一段时间,回来后就告诉约瑟自己怀孕了,约瑟当时一定非常震惊,并且玛利亚还声称没有男人亲近她。
约瑟思想眼前的处境,无论怎样看都是严峻的。然而,马太福音1:20说,正思念这事的时候,有主的使者向他梦中显现,说:“大卫的子孙约瑟,不要怕,只管娶过你的妻子马利亚来。因她所怀的孕,是从圣灵来的。”换句话说,约瑟是要寻求一个智慧公义的回应。而上帝以让人惊叹的方式进入约瑟的生命,一方面证实了玛利亚的事件,同时也停止了他“暗地休妻”的计划。
上帝将约瑟的哀痛变为喜乐,而玛利亚道出了实质:如此地奇妙和惊奇。虽然这对夫妻要承受公众对未婚先孕的激烈谴责,但是约瑟不去顾虑别人会讲什么。上帝赐福约瑟所行的,让他在这个忠心的女人身边,一起抚养弥赛亚。
亲爱的弟兄姊妹们,面对沮丧,真基督徒应该寻求作出神性的回应。因为上帝一直都有祂的旨意(耶利米29:11 耶和华说:“我知道我向你们所怀的意念,是赐平安的意念,不是降灾祸的意念,要叫你们末后有指望”),所以我们作出最有智慧的回应,就是以有行动的信心来期盼上帝运作的益处,并耐性等候祂的时间表。约瑟情愿“先求上帝的国”,上帝必定祝福他(马太福音6:33 你们要先求祂的国和祂的义,这些东西都要加给你们了)。
你要专心仰赖耶和华,不可倚靠自己的聪明。在你一切所行的事上都要认定祂,祂必指引你的路(箴言3:5-6)
我留下平安给你们,我将我的平安赐给你们。我所赐的不像世人所赐的,你们心里不要忧愁,也不要胆怯(约翰福音14:27)
上帝要的是我们全心全意地寻求祂。当想到寻求上帝时,你发现自己会为什么事情求告祂?太多时候,我们寻求上帝是为了祂能给我们什么,而不是单纯地为了祂是上帝、为了我们能为祂做些什么而寻求祂!我现在的意思不是说我们不能为需求而求祂,事实上,祂希望供应我们一切所需,祂甚至想要丰盛地祝福我们,只是祂希望我们要以一个正确的出发点来求告祂。
我耶和华是鉴察人心、试验人肺腑的,要照各人所行的和他作事的结果报应他(耶利米17:10)
我们在历代志下注意到,所罗门作王时蒙了多么大的祝福(我鼓励你读历代志下第一章)。所罗门是全心全意地寻求上帝,当上帝问他想求什么时,所罗门的心向着上帝,谦卑地求智慧,好使他作王统治时能按照上帝的心意来带领国民。所罗门没有求财富或名望,而是符合上帝的心意而求。上帝荣耀了所罗门,因为所罗门的谦卑,他不仅得到了上帝的智慧,连他未求的也得到了。当我们以谦卑的心并想上帝所想地来到祂跟前时,即使我们没有求祂,祂的祝福也会自然地倾入我们的生命!
求你赐我智慧聪明,我好在这民前出入。不然,谁能判断这众多的民呢?(历代志下1:10)
你们中间若有缺少智慧的,应当求那厚赐与众人,也不斥责人的 神,主就必赐给他(雅各1:5)
如果你不知道怎样想上帝所想,那么你首先要祈求上帝赐给你一颗渴望懂得祂心意的心。多读上帝的话语、多用时间亲近上帝,这会帮助你长成一颗跟从上帝和祂旨意的心,而不是自己的心。这样去做,我们就会开始遵照圣灵而行,多行上帝的教导、少行属世的欲望;我们不再满足于短暂的事物,我们渴求的都是永恒的事。
你们既然接受了主基督耶稣,就当遵祂而行。在祂里面生根建造、信心坚固,正如你们所领的教训,感谢的心也更增长了(歌罗西2:6 -7)
但愿赐平安的 神,就是那凭永约之血使群羊的大牧人我主耶稣从死里复活的 神,在各样善事上成全你们,叫你们遵行祂的旨意,又借着耶稣基督在你们心里行祂所喜悦的事。愿荣耀归给祂,直到永永远远。阿们(希伯来13:20-21)
上帝深切地照顾着我们,祂知道我们需要什么,祂为我们所预备的,甚至我们可能都不知道。当我们懂得按照上帝的心意来求告祂时,就会发现自己比任何时候都更平安。从我们的品性将反射出上帝的品性,那么别人就会想知道我们为何会与众不同。作为真基督徒,我们是上帝的器皿,能够有助于向别人显明一个喜乐、平安和满足的生命,就是我们用整个生命侍奉和信靠上帝所得到的。上帝是一位美善的上帝!寻求祂,那么任何益处你都不会缺乏!(诗篇34:10)
How to deal with disappointment, painful and disheartening news.
Matthew 1: Joseph Accepts JESUS as His SON
18 This is how the birth of JESUS the MESSIAH came about: HIS mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the HOLY SPIRIT. 19 Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.
20 But after he had considered this, an angel of the LORD appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the HOLY SPIRIT. 21 She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name JESUS, because HE will save HIS people from their sins.”
22 All this took place to fulfil what the LORD had said through the prophet: 23 “The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him IMMANUEL” (which means “GOD with us”).
24 When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the LORD had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife. 25 But he did not consummate their marriage until she gave birth to a son. And he gave HIM the name JESUS.
To find examples of wise, godly reactions to disappointment, you’re more likely to turn to Psalms than to Matthew. But the very first chapter in the New Testament tells the story of an upright man’s reaction to painful and disheartening news.
Joseph—JESUS’ earthly father—was a righteous person. A godly man wants a wife who shares his desire to honour and obey the LORD, and Scripture indicates that Mary was exactly that sort of woman (Luke 1: 45 Blessed is she who has believed that the LORD would fulfil HIS promises to her!”
Mary’s Song
46 And Mary said: “My soul glorifies the LORD
47 and my spirit rejoices in GOD my SAVIOUR,
48 for HE has been mindful
of the humble state of HIS servant.
From now on all generations will call me blessed,
49 for the MIGHTY ONE has done great things for me—
holy is HIS name.
50 HIS mercy extends to those who fear HIM,
from generation to generation.
51 HE has performed mighty deeds with HIS arm;
HE has scattered those who are proud in their inmost thoughts.
52 HE has brought down rulers from their thrones
but has lifted up the humble.
53 HE has filled the hungry with good things
but has sent the rich away empty.
54 HE has helped HIS servant Israel,
remembering to be merciful
55 to Abraham and his descendants forever,
just as he promised our ancestors.”)
So imagine how stunned Joseph must have been when Mary returned from a long visit with her relative Elizabeth and told him that she was pregnant. Moreover, she was claiming no man had touched her.
Any way Joseph looked at the situation, it appeared grim. And yet Matthew 1: (20 But after he had considered this, an angel of the LORD appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the HOLY SPIRIT.)—in other words, he sought a wise, righteous response. GOD entered Joseph’s life in a dramatic way to confirm Mary’s story and put a stop to his “quiet annulment” plans.
The LORD turned Joseph’s mourning into joy. Mary had told the truth—strange and startling as it was. The couple would bear the intense public censure of an early pregnancy, but Joseph stopped thinking about what others would say. GOD had blessed work for him: to raise the Messiah alongside a faithful woman.
Dear Brothers and Sisters,
Followers of CHRIST should seek a godly response to disappointments we face. Since the LORD always has a plan (Jeremiah 29: 11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.), the wisest reaction is to anticipate the good HE can do and await HIS timing. GOD certainly blessed Joseph for his willingness to “seek first HIS kingdom” (Matt. 6: 33 But seek first HIS kingdom and HIS righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.).
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge HIM, and HE will make your paths straight.” –Proverbs 3:5-6
“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” –John 14:27
GOD desires for our hearts to be committed to seeking HIM. But when you think about seeking the LORD, what kinds of things do you find yourself saying to HIM or asking of HIM? Often times, we may seek GOD for what HE can give us instead of simply seeking HIM for being GOD and what we can do for HIM! Now this doesn’t mean we can’t ask HIM for what we need. HE does want to provide for us and HE even longs to bless us abundantly, but HE wants us to have the right motives when we ask of HIM.
“I the LORD search the heart and examine the mind, to reward a man according to his conduct, according to what his deeds deserve.” –Jeremiah 17:10
In 2 Chronicles, we note how blessed Solomon was as a king. (I encourage you to read all of 2 Chronicles 1) He sought GOD with all of his heart, and when GOD told him to ask whatever he wished, Solomon’s heart was right towards GOD and he humbly asked for GOD’s wisdom, that he would lead the people in the ways of GOD as he reigned as king. Solomon didn’t ask for riches or for fame, but instead asked for the very heart of GOD. GOD honoured him and because of Solomon’s humility, he was not only given GOD’s wisdom, but was also given those things he did not ask for. When we come to GOD with a humble heart and desire the things HE desires, HIS blessings will naturally begin to flow into our lives without us even having to ask HIM!
“Give me wisdom and knowledge, that I may lead this people, for who is able to govern this great people of yours?” -2 Chronicles 1:10
“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask GOD, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” –James 1:5
If you have trouble with desiring the things of GOD, the first step is to ask HIM to give you the desire to desire HIS heart. HIS will! Reading HIS WORD and spending time in HIS presence will help us to develop a heart after HIM and HIS desires instead of our own. We will begin to walk in the spirit, going after the things of GOD, and going less after worldly desires. We will no longer be satisfied by temporary things but will desire things that are eternal.
“So then, just as you received CHRIST JESUS as LORD, continues to live in HIM, rooted and built up in HIM, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.” –Colossians 2:6-7
“May the GOD of peace, who through the blood of the eternal covenant brought back from the dead our LORD JESUS, that great SHEPHERD of the sheep, equip you with everything good for doing HIS will, and may HE work in us what is pleasing to HIM, through JESUS CHRIST, to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.” –Hebrews 13:20-21
GOD cares deeply for us, and HE knows what we need, even if we may not know how HE will provide it. When we learn to ask GOD for the things on HIS heart, we will find ourselves more at peace than we ever were before. Our character will reflect GOD’s character and others will want to know what is different about us. As true Christians, we are carriers of GOD’s presence and we can help show others the joy, peace, and satisfaction there is in serving GOD and trusting HIM with our lives. HE is a good GOD! Seek HIM and you will lack no good thing!
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