Time to replace marriage with a cohabitation contract (ZT)

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<DIV class=artText><FONT color=#666666><B>Women should expect less from their man and understand that philandering is in his nature</B></FONT> </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>I refer to the report, "Stay away from my husband, you hear!" (Aug 19) and the letter "Don't blame the other woman if he strays" (Aug 22) by Mrs Lam. </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>I am nearing middle age and all of my male friends are married — most with children. </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>When we get together, we always reminisce about the days gone by and take stock of what's left of our lives. And almost inevitably we end up talking about women in general and our wives in particular. </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>I discovered, at first to my shock, how commonplace it was that so many of my friends cheated on their wives. </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>Most confessed to doing so mostly on business trips, but others also told me that they had flings nearer home — usually with their colleagues. </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>These friends have no intention to file for divorce or pursue a life with the "other" woman. </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>Mrs Lam has correctly identified the key reason why they do this — after marriage and especially after childbirth, wives lose their sexual drive, creating a pent-up desire in men who are used to a higher degree of physical sexual expression. </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>This gets worse when the children are born, as wives not only lose their shape but also spend almost all their time and energy on the kids, almost ignoring their husbands. </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>So, is this an excuse for men to stray? </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>It depends on the age-old "nature-vs-nurture" debate and whether the male of a species conditioned to "go forth and multiply" can — by sheer exercise of discipline — curb his natural need to keep sowing his seed. </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>And it seems the older a man gets, and the more he is confronted with his mortality, the more he desires to prove — both to himself and maybe even his friends — that he is still able to "perform". </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>Certainly, all men stray if not physically, at least psychologically — by either looking at attractive women, watching porn or even fantasising about sex with others. </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>Traditions of love and marriage are nice. But reading all the letters and various discussions on the matter, I am tempted to say — and I know that this will cause controversy — that there is nothing to recommend marriage to a man. </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>Certainly not in law, where men always lose out in marriage, and neither in reality, where men face self-imposed restrictions on their natural tendencies. </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>Looking back, almost all my friends regret the act of marriage. Given a second chance, most would rather cohabit — not least because the legal consequences are less serious. </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>The concept of marriage was intended to protect women: It does nothing for the man. But times have changed and with the growing affluence of women, there is no longer a need for a man to provide for a woman. </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>Mrs Lam's letter may have struck a cord. Is it time for women to expect less from their man? To realise and even to expect that their man cannot, by nature, only have one woman for ever and ever? </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>Is it time for the concept of marriage to be done away with, and be replaced with a contract where both parties negotiate the terms of their cohabitation? Even to the extent where each party may have an allowable number of affairs a year? </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>As times change, maybe social expectation should too. </DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>(以上转自&lt;TODAY&gt;)</DIV>
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<DIV class=artText>文章的作者该被女人的口水淹没了. [em01][em01]</DIV>

龟

婚姻法里男女不平等的地方适当改改就好了。婚姻这种事还是需要有一种全社会共同遵守的规则的。不能像做生意一样case by case.

mango1

<P>哈哈哈....我就有很多走私的朋友......还有小老婆.....</P><P>有钱的不敢乱来怕分家产...有的干脆不结婚</P><P>没钱的乱乱来...结果离婚时很惨给赡养费给到脸青青.....哈哈哈</P><P>与其说女人独立进步......不如说她们已经散失以前女人的一些美德....小事也闹离婚....在家被宠坏了....其实跟上代的男人相比...这代的男人已经进步很多了....</P><P>PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENT会越来越流行.....</P>[em01][em01][em01]

想想

<P>"Even to the extent where each party may have an allowable number of affairs a year?"</P><P> 如果男女双方对这个都没意见, 尤其是男人对女人在外面有affair没意见, 这倒也是一大进步! </P><P> [em01][em01][em01]</P>

chisg

<P>不敢说是全部，但新加坡，国内各大城市，香港，台湾的现代女子似乎都有个特点，就是永远只会想我要的是条件什么，从不想自己有什么，能给人什么。既丧失了传统的美德，但保留了一贯的浅薄娇纵不讲理。没学习到西方女子爽朗明理的作风，张牙舞爪咄多逼人倒模仿了个十足。</P><P>更奇怪的是，一些女人一旦有了洋男友或嫁给了洋外国人，如果有机会被访问，一定会把自己国家的男人贬低到无以复加的地步，来为自己从一开始就不和非白人交往辩解，似乎这样才能证明她的选择是绝对正确的，天可怜见，却不知当中有多少会情海翻波，灰头土脸跑回国的。</P><P>一个男人如果对自己女人在外面有affair没意见,，这不是一大进步! 只是证明了这男人根本就不爱这女人，不然就是个不爱这女人的性变态。</P><P>说了这么多，大概又要被高喊姐姐妹妹站起来的女斗士骂臭男人了。</P>

yoyopaul

很多臭男人就是会搞外遇，搞婚外情，养情妇，养小老婆，金屋藏娇，享齐人之福。

想想

<DIV class=quote><B>以下是引用<I>chisg</I>在2005-8-24 13:03:48的发言：</B>

<P>不敢说是全部，但新加坡，国内各大城市，香港，台湾的现代女子似乎都有个特点，就是永远只会想我要的是条件什么，从不想自己有什么，能给人什么。既丧失了传统的美德，但保留了一贯的浅薄娇纵不讲理。没学习到西方女子爽朗明理的作风，张牙舞爪咄多逼人倒模仿了个十足。</P>
<P>更奇怪的是，一些女人一旦有了洋男友或嫁给了洋外国人，如果有机会被访问，一定会把自己国家的男人贬低到无以复加的地步，来为自己从一开始就不和非白人交往辩解，似乎这样才能证明她的选择是绝对正确的，天可怜见，却不知当中有多少会情海翻波，灰头土脸跑回国的。</P>
<P>一个男人如果对自己女人在外面有affair没意见,，这不是一大进步! 只是证明了这男人根本就不爱这女人，不然就是个不爱这女人的性变态。</P>
<P>说了这么多，大概又要被高喊姐姐妹妹站起来的女斗士骂臭男人了。</P></DIV>
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<P>女人在外面有affair就是性变态? 为什么? 男人在外面有affair 就是正常的? </P>
<P>不知道你们男人所谓的女人的传统美德是什么, 难道是容忍自己的老公在外面三妻四妾? 如果一个女人可以做到这点的话, 也只能证明这个女人根本就不爱她老公. 可是换作男人的话, 就算不爱自己的老婆, 也无法容忍她在外面有affair, 对吧?! </P>

chisg

<DIV class=quote><B>以下是引用<I>想想</I>在2005-8-24 13:41:55的发言：</B>


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<P>女人在外面有affair就是性变态? 为什么? 男人在外面有affair 就是正常的? </P>
<P>不知道你们男人所谓的女人的传统美德是什么, 难道是容忍自己的老公在外面三妻四妾? 如果一个女人可以做到这点的话, 也只能证明这个女人根本就不爱她老公. 可是换作男人的话, 就算不爱自己的老婆, 也无法容忍她在外面有affair, 对吧?! </P></DIV>
<P>哦，我可没说女人在外面有affair就是性变态，性变态说的是那男人，看清楚一点嘛。
<P>男人在外面有affair 不是正常，是混蛋加三级，而既然是混蛋透顶的事，女人就没必要争取同样的权利了，这世界常常让莽撞的男人搞得乌烟瘴气，是女人坚守着人间最美好的信念，对家庭的承诺，才让这世界免于破碎，如果有一天女人也变得和男人一样，这世界是将毁灭的，知道为何战士在战场倒下时，嘴里最后吐出的，通常都是妈妈或者妻子爱人的名字吗?
<P>所谓女人的传统美德，不用多说大家也应该知道吧，但绝对不包括容忍自己的老公在外面三妻四妾，逆来顺受，无才便是德等等，那是封建的糟粕。至於男人不爱自己的老婆会不会容忍她在外面有affair?一般爱面子自尊心重的肯定不会，但一种米养百种人，而且现代新新人类想法前卫，因此难说难说。</P>

刀客的粉刺

<DIV class=quote><B>以下是引用<I>chisg</I>在2005-8-24 14:18:21的发言：</B>


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<P>男人在外面有affair 不是正常，是混蛋加三级，而<b>既然是混蛋透顶的事，女人就没必要争取同样的权利了</b>，这世界常常让莽撞的男人搞得乌烟瘴气，是女人坚守着人间最美好的信念，对家庭的承诺，才让这世界免于破碎，如果有一天女人也变得和男人一样，这世界是将毁灭的，知道为何战士在战场倒下时，嘴里最后吐出的，通常都是妈妈或者妻子爱人的名字吗?
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<P>掰得好！</P>
<P>好像大专辩论赛快开锣了，还愣着干什么，快去报名参赛。</P>

想想

<P>啊?! 这个贴也给加精了! 谢谢冰冰斑竹! (感动ing....)</P><P>如果世界上多点象chisg这样的男人就完美了! [em07]</P>